Saturday, 14 November 2009
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Flirting & Fooling Around
Flirting is fun. If a guy does it, and even with girls in many cases, I think they are often trying to get a little bit of physical contact, though. And if both are open to that, it's a good thing. We as humans enjoy social and physical interaction, and it's a natural thing. Even for those who are involved in a committed relationship, a little flirting and even a little fooling around helps keep our self-esteem high. It affirms we are attractive to others, and can help our long-term relationship at home by adding spice, as long as it's not done too frequently, or hidden from our partners.
What is your opinion on flirting and fooling around?
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I suppose that with any thing, even if it's good, too much of it leads to bad.
I must confess to occassionally being an uncontrollable flirt-monster and have even been known to flirt without realising it. Flirting is great fun, though. Everyone needs a little ego boost every now and again.
Exactly. I flirt mainly to boost egos and make people feel good about themselves. It might be different if I were in a committed relationship.
I think flirting can be harmless, but I don't think fooling around is ok unless your married to that person.
Flirting, do it in moderation, unless its with your wife/husband or gf/bf, than know no limits.
i must agree about the ego boost. especially when you get up there in age. like the forty
somethings. lol. sure makes me feel good about myself
@roediger - My point exactly! I'm 45! so I have been there.
I always seem to flirt without realising it, but I think I flirt with guys and girls jokingly. However, I hardly know how to respond when people flirt back seriously. I always find myself more shocked than anything haha
I disagree. I think it's a bad idea to fool around or even give the appearance of it in a committed relationship.
Flirting is insincere and is an acting game.
@grammarboy - A lot of people would agre with you.
@ProfessorTom - It often is, but not always.
MILD flirting is ok, but I don't think fooling around while in a committed relationship or marriage is a good way to go. It does however remind us we are attractive.
@AlterEgo909 - I basically agree. Remember, fooling around can be something far short of an actual affair. Thanks for reading, and your feedback.
I find it tricky to pin down exactly what's flirting and what's joking and having a good time.
not counting the fooling around with others, I agree. If a relationship is going to last, you have to be open and honest, and not get jealous.
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@angi1972 - Thank you for visiting!
@maraymares - Thanks for reading, and commenting!
I don't really like flirting with other people when I'm in a relationship - inevitably I feel guilty and like I've done something dishonest.
I think it's different for everyone.Â
I am a flirt! And my hubby can be too. Its nice to feel confident and attractive. Fooling around is a bit different and depends on the level - that's something that each individual decides on their own.
For example, I hug everyone, does that mean I'm fooling around?
Thanks for the rec! Again! *HUGS*
@msbutterfli - See, you get it! So many think I mean actually having an affair. That too is up to what the couple is comfortable with. Myself, I mean hugs, dancing, kissing, maybe SLIGHT petting, enjoying each other's bodies. My rule is, if you would feel like you have to keep it a secret from your partner, don't do it! I've been with my wife for 25 years, married for 24. So I guess what we're doing works. Thanks for the feedback! HUG.
@lonelywanderer2 - Having an affair implies that you don't care about the relationship you are in - flirtng and fooling around within boundaries, to me, just means you enjoy the social and friendly interaction of other people... But you're right, it has to work for all people involved!!
@honeybises - Thank you, and thanks for the rec! And it's not I'm a big player, or anything. I hardly even go out anymore. But I've also seen the reverse on a rare occasion where we went out together. A guy was hittin on my wife hard. She has a low self-esteem, and she was just shining that this guy found her attractive. I played cool and let her enjoy the attention! Guess who benefitted when we got home!
@lonelywanderer2 - lol That's nice. Yeah, I dunno. I've had friends who are just naturally flirty and outgoing and good at that kind of stuff (I wouldn't describe them as players but I've seen them get into trouble a few times because of it...). I'll go out but I stick to pretty much one corner because I'm a bit shy.
I sure hope that when my beau is 40 and already in a marriage with me that he will not flirt with other men "to boost his ego". And I sure hope the same for myself.