On a friend's Facebook wall, after I made a joking suggestive comment, someone other than the owner of the site typed for me to "Knock it off. That's fucking creepy". Now if you've known me a while, you know that in general I don't EVER knowingly offend people, so I apologized and said it was intended as a joke, and even took my original comment down. That's something I rarely do. because you can't take back words once they are spoken or typed. You can only clarify your intent and move on.
The more I thought about the situation, the more I got really PISSED OFF. Not at either the site owner or the person who chastised me, but at myself. I have a unique relationship with each person I know. A joke I might make to one specific person, I would never make to another certain person, because I know it will offend them.
So this advice is for everybody, myself included. Be good to people and try not to hurt them, but say what you want to and think is appropriate between you and that person. Also, if you don't like a comment someone makes, feel free to let them know that, respectfully, but don't judge them by one comment, or even one post. If life was like a half-hour TV show, in most cases we only saw about 50 seconds of it before changing the channel.
I also try to be very careful about my jesting. I can really go over the edge sometimes due to my weird sense of humor.--My wife is forever trying to get me to tone it down or just stop it. lol
Favor: Do you know SentimentalDoll in Xanga. I used to visit her site, but I think I am blocked. I was hoping she would add me as a friend, I know it is a lot to ask, so if you don't feel good about it, it is ok.
aww who cares. you can't make everyone happy. I usually just say, "I was jk!". Now if they wanna take a joke seriously, one that's not even for them, well then I'm sure they have much bigger issues that they're not confronting and are taking out on me.
It's just words, right? Come on! If I murder your family that's a different story. It's something to get pissed about.
It happens. Sometimes one says the wrong thing. All one can do is what you did, which is apologize and delete the offending comment, and hope that the line dividing the forgivable and the not forgivable has not been crossed. I'm sure it'll be ok.
@twilike - Yeah; killing my family would probably get me a bit more pissed.
@lucylwrites - I was actually mad at myself, for deleting the comment. I almost never do that, 'cause that can be taken as an admission you were guilty of something. All I had done was make a joking comment someone other than the site owner didn't like.
People are prudes. I just say whatever the fuck I want and don't worry about it. There's always gonna be some stuck up fuck face trying to censor you.
@lonelywanderer2 - From now on we should write something when peeps act like that. Hmm let think... how about *pees all over your comment*
Here I'll give you an example instead. Let's pretend you took my above joke seriously n flipped out
Ive been there, one time I made a reference to a old inside joke with a friend....and she forgot! She remembered a few days later and apologized....but I felt like a jerk!
@twilike - "pees all over your comment" Bahahaha, I love it!!!
You are a gentleman to apologize. A smaller person would have back fired with ugly words. I am glad I know you.
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Now I want to know who that was! haha
@CuddlyKat - I'll never tell.
@lonelywanderer2 - Haha. Not even to lil' ol' me? ;)
I also try to be very careful about my jesting. I can really go over the edge sometimes due to my weird sense of humor.--My wife is forever trying to get me to tone it down or just stop it. lol
Favor: Do you know SentimentalDoll in Xanga. I used to visit her site, but I think I am blocked. I was hoping she would add me as a friend, I know it is a lot to ask, so if you don't feel good about it, it is ok.
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@ANVRSADDAY - She is a good one.
It's just words, right? Come on! If I murder your family that's a different story. It's something to get pissed about.
It happens. Sometimes one says the wrong thing. All one can do is what you did, which is apologize and delete the offending comment, and hope that the line dividing the forgivable and the not forgivable has not been crossed. I'm sure it'll be ok.
@twilike - Yeah; killing my family would probably get me a bit more pissed.
@lucylwrites - I was actually mad at myself, for deleting the comment. I almost never do that, 'cause that can be taken as an admission you were guilty of something. All I had done was make a joking comment someone other than the site owner didn't like.
People are prudes. I just say whatever the fuck I want and don't worry about it. There's always gonna be some stuck up fuck face trying to censor you.
Ive been there, one time I made a reference to a old inside joke with a friend....and she forgot! She remembered a few days later and apologized....but I felt like a jerk!
@twilike - "pees all over your comment" Bahahaha, I love it!!!
You are a gentleman to apologize. A smaller person would have back fired with ugly words. I am glad I know you.
A fine post indeed.
@ZSA_MD - Thank you, lovely lady!!!
I certainly have different relationships with different people. It gets weird when you're all in the same room lol
Well I tend to treat people how they should treat me. But seriously how could anyone be mean about a joke you made?
@spicycajun - lol, true! @summereque - That's what I thought, too.
Well said,,, thanks for the reminder! ^..^