November 4, 2009

• It Ended Before It Ever Began- Last Attempt To Extend A Hand In Friendship

  As those of you I am lucky enough to have personally interacted with know, I am very open to talking with people about anything, any time, when they need to talk to someone, whether we have personally met or not.  I do care about people, as a whole, and as individuals.  I also, like many of us on Xanga, like to share what I write, and read what what you think.  Please bear with me, and read the thread below.  I will not give a name of the other person, but somehow I don't think we will become close personal friends.  I think you'll agree I certainly tried.

  I received a message tonight from a VERY RECENTLY INVITED and ADDED Xanga friend, who apparently thinks I am a faker, a liar and a whore, and who wanted to let me know she was "unfriending" me.
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  Her:  So, since you aren't even subscribed to me, haven't commented and have content that lacks quality and meaning, I am hereby informing you, that you have been unfriended. I'm just another little number in parenthesis on your side bar, another statistic for views and comments. No thanks, I prefer REAL people.

  Me:  You're a relatively new friend to me, and I've only seen a few of your posts, but if you want to unfriend me, that is of course your choice.

  Her:  Well you had PLENTY of time to visit, yeah you only saw a few posts, because you weren't subscribed to my site. You made no effort whatsoever to try to make friends. You just want a doting audience, I'm not fooled you know.

  Me:  I never unsubbed from your site. If you need a friend to talk to, just let me know and I'll be there. I honestly care about you. Best bet is to private message me on Xanga. We'll figure out a time to talk that works for both of us. My AIM screen name is ouralonely1. My e-mail is pfunk6007@charter.net. If you need to hear an actual voice on the line, let me know. I will gladly give you my real name and cell number. DO NOT SPAM ME, but if you really need a friend who cares, let me know.

  Her:  Well you had PLENTY of time to visit, yeah you only saw a few posts, because you weren't subscribed to my site. You made no effort whatsoever to try to make friends. You just want a doting audience, I'm not fooled you know.

  Me:  I am subbed to over a thousand people, and have over 1,400 Xanga Friends, so I am not able to comment on every post of every sub. Again, I am someone who cares more than most. That said, I won't beg anyone to stay my friend, or to read what I write. If you choose not to be my friend, I will miss you and wish you the best.

  Her:  You don't even know me, how in the love of god could you possibly believe you care about someone you don't even know? You were NOT subscribed to my site because I check my subscriptions today to see who was. You were not, so not only do you not comment but you weren't reading at all either. I don't see how you think that you have 1,200 "friends" on Xanga. You can't care about that many people you can't keep up with that many people, that is not what a friendship is defined as. That's called aquantences, doesn't sound as nice does it? Suddenly now you care. So basically you are telling me exactly what I already said, right? That out of 1,200 people you are supposedly possibly subscribed to you don't read a single subscription but are most definitely caring and a friend to these people. I have at least two accounts and maybe I don't read EVERY entry, but I visit every site and read the most recent entry at least once a week, and because I don't want to whore myself out and make over 1,000 friends, it's going to stay that way. You can't feel warm and close in a circle that big. I wasn't asking you to beg me to stay, this is the same exact copy and paste message from when I first asked you why you were freind requesting. It just seems damn pretentious to me.

  Me:  Buh-bye!
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  UPDATE:  Since that exchange, I actually sent a more personal message to this person, giving her my real first name and cell phone number, and inviting her to call.  Now, there is truly nothing more I can try to extend the hand of friendship.

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